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Saturday, August 29, 2009
Nick Vujicic - Get Back Up
Winners always go back up again no matter how tough and hard it is. Because they have strong belief in their mind that they deserve and they will.
This video is truly AMAZING!
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
You are What You think
In many cases, depression actually is the result of habitual negative thoughts. When bad things happen, we begin chastising ourselves with thoughts such as: I'm no good, I'm a total failure or Nothing ever goes my way. Our feelings follow what we are thinking, and negative thoughts like these can send us spiraling down into depression.
This concept is the guiding principle behind cognitive therapy, a type of psychotherapy developed by psychiatrist Aaron T. Beck in the 1960s. If we think something often enough, we begin to believe it's true and our feelings match what we are thinking about ourselves. To conquer depression, we must stop those automatic negative thoughts and replace them with more positive, truthful ones. By nipping these thoughts in the bud, we can halt depression before it even starts.
Cognitive therapy is directed at 10 common cognitive distortions, or faulty thought patterns, that send us into depression. See if you recognize yourself in any of these.
- All-or-Nothing Thinking: John recently applied for a promotion in his firm. The job went to another employee with more experience. John wanted this job badly and now feels that he will never be promoted. He feels that he is a total failure in his career.
- Overgeneralization: Linda is lonely and often spends most of her time at home. Her friends sometimes ask her to come out for dinner and meet new people. Linda feels that that is it useless to try to meet people. No one really could like her. People are all mean and superficial anyway.
- Mental Filter: Mary is having a bad day. As she drives home, a kind gentleman waves her to go ahead of him as she merges into traffic. Later in her trip, another driver cuts her off. She grumbles to herself that there are nothing but rude and insensitive people in her city.
- Disqualifying the Positive: Rhonda just had her portrait made. Her friend tells her how beautiful she looks. Rhonda brushes aside the compliment by saying that the photographer must have touched up the picture. She never looks that good in real life, she thinks.
- Jumping to Conclusions: Chuck is waiting for his date at a restaurant. She's now 20 minutes late. Chuck laments to himself that he must have done something wrong and now she has stood him up. Meanwhile, across town, his date is stuck in traffic.
- Magnification and Minimization: Scott is playing football. He bungles a play that he's been practicing for weeks. He later scores the winning touchdown. His teammates compliment him. He tells them he should have played better; the touchdown was just dumb luck.
- Emotional Reasoning: Laura looks around her untidy house and feels overwhelmed by the prospect of cleaning. She feels that it's hopeless to even try to clean.
- Should Statements: David is sitting in his doctor's waiting room. His doctor is running late. David sits stewing, thinking, "With how much I'm paying him, he should be on time. He ought to have more consideration." He ends up feeling bitter and resentful.
- Labeling and Mislabeling: Donna just cheated on her diet. I'm a fat, lazy pig, she thinks.
- Personalization: Jean's son is doing poorly in school. She feels that she must be a bad mother. She feels that it's all her fault that he isn't studying.
If you recognize any of these behaviors in yourself, then you're halfway there. Here's a homework assignment for you: Over the next few weeks, monitor the self-defeating ways in which you respond to situations. Practice recognizing your automatic responses. Now, we will take each of the above cognitive distortions and discuss some powerful coping strategies that will help you dispel the blues before they even start.
All-or-Nothing Thinking:
John recently applied for a promotion in his firm. The job went to another employee with more experience. John wanted this job very badly and now feels that he will never be promoted. He feels that he is a total failure in his career.
This type of thinking is characterized by absolute terms like always, never, and forever. Few situations are ever this absolute. There are generally gray areas. Eliminate these absolute terms from your vocabulary except for the cases where they truly apply. Look for a more accurate description of the situation. Here's an example of self-talk that John could have used to cope with not getting that promotion:
"I wanted this job a lot, but it went to someone with more experience. This is disappointing to me, but it doesn't mean I'm not a good employee. Other opportunities will be available in the future. I'll keep working on my skills so that I'll be ready for them when they arrive. This one setback does not mean my career is over. Overall, I have excelled in my work."
Overgeneralization:
Linda is lonely and often spends most of her time at home. Her friends sometimes ask her to come out for dinner and meet new people. Linda feels that that is it useless to try to meet people. No one really could like her. People are all mean and superficial anyway.
When one overgeneralizes, one takes an isolated case or cases and assumes that all others are the same. Are people really all mean and superficial and could never like her? What about her friends who are trying to get her to go out? Obviously she does have someone who cares about her. The next time you catch yourself overgeneralizing, remind yourself that even though a group of people may share something in common, they are also separate and unique individuals. No two people are exactly the same. There may be mean and superficial people in this world. There may even be people who dislike you. But, not every person will fit this description. By assuming that everyone doesn't like you, you are building a wall that will prevent you from having what you crave the most -- friendship.
Mental Filter:
Mary is having a bad day. As she drives home, another driver cuts her off. She grumbles to herself that there are nothing but rude and insensitive people in her town. Later, a kind gentleman waves her go ahead of him. She continues on her way still angry at how rude all the people in her city are.
When a person falls victim to mental filters they are mentally singling out only the bad events in their lives and overlooking the positive. Learn to look for that silver lining in every cloud. It's all about how you choose to let events effect you. Mary could have turned her whole day around if she had paid attention to that nice man who went out of his way to help her.
Disqualifying the Positive:
Rhonda just had her portrait made. Her friend tells her how beautiful she looks. Rhonda brushes aside the compliment by saying that the photographer must have touched up the picture. She says she never looks that good in real life.
We depressives are masters at taking the good in a situation and turning it into a negative. Part of this comes from a tendency to have low self-esteem. We feel like we just don't deserve it. How to turn this around is simple. The next time someone compliments you, resist the little voice inside that says you don't deserve it. Just say "thank you" and smile. The more you do this, the easier it will become.
Jumping to Conclusions:
Chuck is waiting for his date at a restaurant. She's now 20 minutes late. Chuck laments to himself that he must have done something wrong and now she has stood him up. Meanwhile, across town, his date is stuck in traffic.
Once again, we fall victim to our own insecurities. We expect the worst and begin preparing early for the disappointment. By the time we find out that all our fears were unfounded, we've worked ourselves into a frenzy and for what? Next time do this: Give the person the benefit of the doubt. You'll save yourself a lot of unnecessary worry. If your fears have some basis in reality, however, drop that person from your life like a hot potato.
Magnification and Minimization:
Scott is playing football. He bungles a play that he's been practicing for weeks. He later scores the winning touchdown. His teammates compliment him. He tells them he should have played better; the touchdown was just dumb luck.
Ever looked through a telescope from the wrong direction? Everything looks tinier than it really is. When you look through the other end, everything looks larger. People who fall into the magnification/minimization trap look at all their successes through the wrong end of the telescope and their failures through the other end.
What can you do to stay away from this error? Remember the old saying, "He can't see the forest for the trees?" When one mistake bogs us down, we forget to look at the overall picture. Step back and look at the forest now and then. Overall, Scott played a good game. So what if he made a mistake?
Emotional Reasoning:
Laura looks around her untidy house and feels overwhelmed by the prospect of cleaning. She feels that it's hopeless to even try to clean.
Laura has based her assessment of the situation on how it makes her feel not how it really is. It may make her feel bad to think of the large task ahead of her, but is it really hopeless? In reality, cleaning her house is a doable task. She just doesn't feel up to it. She has reached the conclusion that it is useless to try based on the fact that it overwhelms her.
When a situation feels overwhelming, try this: Break down the task down into smaller ones. Then prioritize what is most important to you. Now, do the first task on your list. Believe it or not, you will begin to feel better and ready for more. The important thing is to just do something towards your goal. No matter how small, it's a start and will break you out of feeling helpless.
Should Statements:
David is sitting in his doctor's waiting room. His doctor is running late. David sits stewing, thinking, "With how much I'm paying him, he should be on time. He ought to have more consideration." He ends up feeling bitter and resentful.
We all think things should be a certain way, but let's face it, they aren't. Concentrate on what you can change and if you can't change it, accept it as part of life and go on. Your mental health is more important than "the way things should be."
Labeling and Mislabeling:
Donna just cheated on her diet. I'm a fat, lazy pig she thinks.
What Donna has done is label herself as lazy and hopeless. She most likely will reason that since she can't lose weight, she may as well eat. She has now effectively trapped herself by living up to the label she placed on herself. When we label ourselves, we set ourselves up to become whatever that label entails. This can just as easily work to our advantage.
Here's what Donna could have done to make labeling work in her favor. She could have considered the fact that up until now she has been strong. She could then forgive herself for only being human and acknowledge that she has been working hard to lose weight and has been succeeding. This is a temporary setback that she can overcome. Overall, she is a strong person and has proven it by her successful weight loss. With this type of positive thinking, Donna will feel better and be back to work on her weight loss goals in no time.
Personalization:
Jean's son is doing poorly in school. She feels that she must be a bad mother. It's all her fault that he isn't studying.
Jean is taking all the responsibility for how her son is doing in school. She is failing to take into consideration that her son is an individual who is ultimately responsible for himself. She can do her best to guide him, but in the end he controls his actions. Next time you find yourself doing this, ask yourself, "Would I take credit if this person were doing something praiseworthy? Chances are you'd say, "No, he accomplished that by himself." So why blame yourself when he does something not-so praiseworthy? Beating yourself up is not going to change his behavior. Only he can do that.
The solutions I've presented here are some of the common situations we find ourselves in. Take these as examples and create your own positive solutions to your negative thoughts. Recognizing that you do it is the first step. Then play devil's advocate and challenge yourself to find the positive. Turn your thoughts around and your moods will follow suit. Remember, you are what you think!
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Pursuit of Happiness - The movie
Here is the best part of the movie.
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Mahatma Gandhi - life story
Not only was he a mediocre student, he was a very quiet and shy teenager too. But did that stop him from becoming India’s “Father of the Nation”?
No.
It’s a great piece of news for us! Because, if you’ve been through a similar situation, all is not lost yet! You’re still able to create your own story of victory… just like Gandhi.
A Family Disappointment
Born into a mid-ranking caste family, Mohandas K. or Mahatama (“Great-Souled”) Gandhi had a low self esteem when he was young. Because of that, he seldom stayed back after school to interact with other classmates for fear of being ridiculed at. That was also part of the reason for his early unhappiness in his marriage (when he was 13 years old) as his young bride had difficulty accommodating to his impatient, jealous and demanding outbursts.
He didn’t do well in school either. After struggling to graduate from high school, he moved on to study medicine in a local university only to fail badly and subsequently, forced to quit. At that time, he had only attended that university for only 5 months.
In their desperate bid to help the young man, his family decided to send him to England to study law, a course that they believed he would be able to cope. They pooled all the financial resources that they could get and finally sent the excited Gandhi off to London to embark on a fresh new start.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Thomas Alva Edison - life story
When Edison was seven years old, he has already developed a fascination for anything involve mechanically and chemical experiments. At the local schoolhouse, after enduring his persistent questioning and self-centered behavior, his short-tempered teacher eventually declared that his brains were either addled or scrambled.
His furious mother quickly took him home and began to tutor him herself. She was convinced that her son unusual demeanor and hyperactive behavior were just signs of his remarkable intelligence.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Rocky VI - A talk with his son
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Two frogs story
The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?" The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the
entire time.
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Are You Inspired In Your Work
Why do we all work? If it is for money, then does it mean that those who earn enough to last a life time or those who inherit, should do no work? Try to find out around with your friends about why they work and surely few of them will answer - for money. If someone who has enough money decides to do no work, will it make that person happy and contented? We derive satisfaction in life by doing things that we feel are worth while. If we are sure that we have done good work, we feel peace in the heart. It gives us the approval of our ability. Let us find out if we are inspired in and with our work.
How to know if we are inspired in what we do? The first question should be - are we made for that work? Does that work fit our abilities and mental makeup? If yes, the first barrier to inspiration in work is broken. For example a person with weak physique will find the work of a sailor very unsuitable. What about enjoyment? Do you enjoy doing your work? Are you happy at the end of the day or tired and irritated? If you enjoy doing your work, no amount of hard work will tire you out totally. Otherwise your inner frustration of doing something that you don't like doing will tire you out with anger in no time.
Do you feel that your work makes other lives better? If some how you can begin getting that feeling, your inspiration in work will rise without any other help. Think of a person, who made a bed especially for a sick person. During a visit to the sick person, the maker is told that the bed has made life much better and how much the patient loves the bed and thanks the maker for that. The person who made that bed will feel extremely satisfied with his/her work after this session. Unfortunately, most of the customer interaction are handled by the marketing department now a days and the people who work to make the product, don't come in touch with the users. We all feel very satisfied if we feel that our work has made someone feel better. If the marketing person who makes good sales is thanked by the shareholders of the company for multiplying their investment, he/she will be equally happy. the point is - we feel satisfied and inspired if we give joy to other with our work.
The last test to find out if you are inspired in your work would be to find out if you show creativity in your work? Those who are inspired show creativity in some area of of their work, because they want to improve the work efficiency. Uninspired souls will only wait for the day to get over while inspired ones always feel good and creative doing their work. If you have found a work that inspires you, you are very lucky, otherwise it is time to find your true vocation and get satisfaction.
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Tuesday, March 31, 2009
What is the difference between Motivate and Inspire ?
Motivating :
In dictionary, motivate means to provide with a motive, to impel. To motivate people is the same with to bribe people to do something that benefit us as well as them. You can motivate people with anything from money, lust to salvation.
Inspiring :
Inspire means to influence, move, or guide by divine or supernatural inspiration. Inspire people means to let people be guided by something divine or Godly spirit. It's from latin word, spirare, which means to breath.
Music - Inspiration to Help Get Through Challenging Times
Living in the moment has never been more true than today. As we're bombarded with daily reports of failing industries and job losses, many are now facing the very real effects of life changing challenges coming at them from all angles. It's not just something we read about anymore -- we're living it. With recent statistics placing the unemployment rate at 8.1%, can anyone working today say they're basking in the content glow of security? There is uncertainty and unrest for the working individual that still holds a job as much as for the person who has recently lost theirs.
It's during seemingly unbeatable odds and times of need that we consciously or subconsciously look for inspiration -- something that offers encouragement while living in a situation we can't easily remove ourselves from, and helps us deal with problems we can't readily solve.
People have turned to music as a source of inspiration during some of the harshest periods in the country's history. Immersing our thoughts and troubles into our favorite songs for even a brief period can inspire us beyond the moment of what is and where we are, to where we can be because of who we are. Music can effect our outlook and attitudes. Music can help us cope with our struggles, taking on value far beyond something on the radio that just helps us pass the time.
Even in times of economic and social crisis, people have continued embracing their love of entertainment. From the popularity of matinees during the years of the Depression, to the familiarity of televisions delivering images of an ideal home life into living rooms during the social uprisings of the 60's, we've come to rely on entertainment's ability to transport us to a time or place far removed from the realities of our lives. Entertainment helps us briefly escape from stressful situations, allowing a break from the source of our concerns.
Music is even more powerful in it's capability to do so much all at once. The sound of a lulling string section can set the tone, create suspense, and with a final sway of bows, signal the final scene of a romantic film. The right combination of music and words can promote a sense of purpose. Adding music to a 19th century poem by Francis Scott Key helped generations of the American public commit to memory the story about a battle and a flag that was still there. The Star Spangled Banner eventually became as symbolic as the American flag, and in 1931 was bestowed the title of National Anthem.
Is there a song that cheers you up, or has taken you out of a dark mood? Discovering the inspiring quality of a song is like realizing what a particular painting means to you -- what makes it special. Make mental use of a song that is special to you. Songs are artful lessons that can motivate self-love and hope like Michael Masser's and Linda Creed's 'Greatest Love of All' performed by Whitney Houston, or help someone identify with a reluctant hero trying to figure things out such as Tom Petty's 'Learning To Fly,' or empower through the affirmations of a woman betrayed as Beyonce performs in the song 'Irreplaceable,' by Ne-Yo. When we identify with a song's lyrics, or are moved to tears while listening to a sweeping Beethoven Symphony, we've emotionally, sometimes spiritually connected ourselves to music because it reaches the core of who we are in a very intimate way. Music can help us feel resolve where there was once confusion and anger, or help unify people under a common belief where there was once division.
Just as Enya's 'Only Time' captured the essence of the country's grief in 2001, John Rich's song 'Shuttin' Down Detroit' expresses the current anger and disappointment of the nation and also tells our story as individuals, inspiring us to join together to resolve the crisis we face, inspiring us along the way by reminding us that we're so much more than where we happen to be right now.
Music by independent artist Wistful Sound Gazers has been a presence in the digital media world since the early 00's with the release of 'Bliss' by singer/songwriter Ron Christopher. WSG's most downloaded song, 'Push,' continues to be a favorite of reviewers and fans alike, expounding on life and adversity through inspiration and self-determination.
By Ron Christopher - www.ezinearticles.com
Friday, March 27, 2009
Michael Jordan on Motivation
This video below is not really good in resolution but the most important thing is the message is clear. Enjoy and get motivated!
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Florence Nightingale - life story
Florence Nightingale - Nurse.
Was born to wealthy English parents in 1820, she was educated at home by her father and had a strict upbringing. Florence rejected marriage because she felt she would become entrapped by domestic responsibilities. She always felt she had a calling to serve, and in a time when respectable young ladies were expected to marry well, she refused and was not supported by her parents, who felt such a profession was beneath their status.
In 1853 the Crimera war broke out, it was a bloody war for both sides. This war received extensive press reporting and the stories from the battles shocked a whole nation, it was then that the legendary status of Florence Nightingale began. Florence went to the Crimera in 1855 and was asked to organise a group of nurses, initially cleaning the hospital though this would change when the hospital became overwhelmed by the number of casualties.
Bill Gates speech in Harvard - 2007
This is an inspiring and motivational speech from the richest person on earth who have made a lot of impact to many people life from his philantrophy vehicle, Gates Foundation, which he founded together with his wife, Melinda.
He is an inspiration to many young IT entrepreneurs, some of who started doing their business right after graduation. I imagine, to be beside him and look at him working, I think, is already an inspiration by itself. My hat off for him.
There are 5 parts of it down here. Watch them and get inspired.
Steve Jobs speech in Stanford - 2005
I like this speech. It is a very inspiring speech as he talked about his journey of life towards becoming the top person in his industry. He also talked about his brush with death when diagnosed with a cancer and also the ups and downs of his career.
Inspiration in steroid. Here we come!
Four ways Inspirational quotes can change your life
Overall, reading inspirational quotes on a regular basis can help a person become more successful, and lead a happier, more fulfilling life. There are literally thousands of great quotes to choose from, providing people with a never-ending supply of free motivation.
Read ahead to learn the four main ways that reading inspirational quotes on a daily basis can help to improve your life, and bring you more success. Read them all, there are some great points here!